Casey Berard

What is shame and why does it lie?
A painful feeling of humiliation or distress caused by the consciousness of wrong or foolish behaviour--yup, I felt that.

Blah...shame lies. It is not telling the truth of who you are or what you are capable of. Once you recognize it's voice you can tell it where to go!!

I was looking up the definition of shame and you know it actually has purpose:
used to reprove someone for something of which they should be ashamed.
I am thinking of stealing, lying, illegal behaviour
And truthfully, Brene Brown's research shows that using shame is not effective in changing behaviour...GUILT works better (wink)
want proof, Brene's got it? video here, article here
The difference you might ask?
Shame is about us at the core. That we are not enough.

Guilt is about our behaviour: something we have control over.

Brene is clear that it's not just semantics, her research shows that:

"Shame is highly, highly correlated with addiction, depression, violence, aggression,...

When things get tough and scary it's normal to feel disoriented, overwhelmed, unsure, fearful, and less then logical. I mean you weren’t expecting that challenge to come out of nowhere.

When we get caught off guard it’s important to give our nervous system some coaching. I don’t know about you but my body in times of perceived emergency overreacts. It thinks I am in immense danger and that I must shut everything down and react. I rarely react well in these moments, especially if they are not true emergencies.

There is rarely urgency in life.

If only we could remember this in the moments when our stress response is beating us down with fear and panic--our blood pressure and breathing rates change and our ability to think and reason go down. To top it off our guilt and shame is piling up because of the dialogue we are having with ourselves.

Rarely are there true true true emergencies.

I googled it. 9-1-1 is really tired of people calling in with non...

Yin Yang is wise now. In this video, how to use it as a mindfulness practice.

Learn more on the Purpose Fairy Blog:

10 Reasons Slowing Down Will Speed Up Your Life By Casey Berard

Are you ready to live, I mean really live? To be touched by life? And let life touch you?
Greetings beautiful feisty soul!

I think feistiness (I am making that a word) is the spice of life. Ready to own, live and thrive in yours? Ready to be lively, determined and courageous with a touch of edge?

Oh my goodness! Where to start?! How do we grow?
To be aware of our unique and lively, determined, and courageous selves.
Exercise of choice:

Writing down 3 things we value about ourselves daily, DAILY!!
eg:
I value my ability to be in the moment
I value my habits of doing dishes
I value my ability to be open to opportunities
I value myself in the moment
I value my insights
I value my skills
It's easy to take ourselves for granted and that means we will let others step all over us, subtly and overtly. This exercise changed my life. It got me to realize what I offered the world. That I am enough!

To experience all the emotions and sensations that exist within our being
Gosh, this one is...

Spirituality doesn't have to be a dirty word in your daily life and something you hide or are ashamed to share.

Hello feisty soul!

I have been working with people from all walks of life for awhile now, it's my 18th year of practice.

Teachers, chefs, carpenters, managers, IT folk, mechanics, technicians, engineers, factory workers, bookkeepers, nurses, counsellors, physiotherapists, massage therapists, moms, dads, children, and more have come to see me on a quest to stop the pain and suffering (physical, emotional and spiritual).

One of the interweaving threads and agonies is the belief in something more.

An interconnectedness.

A higher purpose or calling of their heart, perhaps their soul. The uniqueness of the language used to describe the feelings and energy are what separates.

A long time ago,

I decided that living my spirituality was one of my top values, mostly because it effected every area of my life.
I made my "home", my "default"-- a place of love, compassion and openness.